Sam and Jane who were both professionals were holed up at home due to Covid-19 lockdown. Initially everything went on coolly but as time went by they started getting on each other’s nerves. They started arguing more and more, finding faults with one another. Eventually Sam left their bedroom and started sleeping in the guest room. Jane hadn’t bargained for this, she had hoped and prayed that their differences would be reconciled. They now lived like strangers scarcely talking to one another. What a devastating situation, bearing in mind that communication is the bloodline of every relationship. Soon Sam found solace on the internet and took a new girlfriend who gave him ‘delights’ from webcam. What he didn’t know was that Jane his faithful wife had not ceased praying for him. Things took a twist when he became so broke financially and his girlfriend left him. This girlfriend had been siphoning huge sums of money off him without him realising it.
Then he came to his senses and realized the horror of his mistakes!
He came to the conclusion that he had caused his own pain, he had sinned against God, against his wife and children. He never dreamt in his wildest imagination that he’ll stray from his marriage and home, that he’ll bring a ‘strange woman’ to take over his heart.
Who then takes the blame- is it Covid-19 or Sam or Jane or both?
Ephesians 5:21&25 “submit to one another out of reverence for Christ”…
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” This was the verse that immediately sprang up to Sam’s mind. He therefore decided to take the initiative to make things right.
Again whilst pondering he remembered 1 Peter 3:7 “Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.”
He decided to have a talk with Jane and make a clean break by confessing everything to her. This he did! What a bold step!
Jane forgave him because her love for him had never dwindled, she had vowed to love him and he alone was enough for her and that was it! When Sam asked for her forgiveness, she loudly proclaimed “who am I not to forgive, am I in the place of God?” So after the forgiveness episode came acceptance, then Sam moved back to their bedroom and he can now testify that he’s found his peace. He’s now at peace with himself and at peace with God!
So many things have happened during these lockdown periods, some good and others bad. However consider this “that God has taken us back to where it all started, where life started – the home!”
Let us enrich our relationship with God, let’s repair broken relationships, and love one another with sincere love!
Ecclesiastes 11:5 NKJV
Walk in wisdom towards those who do not know God. Show much love and kindness and do not repay good with evil. Forgive anyone who wrongs you and keep the peace of God. Fix your heart and mind on things above and the problems of this world will grow strangely dim in the light of God’s glory and grace. How else could Joseph have endured his stay in prison when the butler who had promised to mention him to Pharoah completely forgets about him? Genesis 20:23. Oh how people can disappoint! How people can change in an instant! How friends can become enemies in an instant! How love can turn into hatred in an instant! 2 Samuel 13:15. How a beautiful love relationship can result in a bitter divorce battle! Herewith is the Answer – “Trust the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your paths” Proverbs 3:5-6.
Everyday is a gift of life bringing with it new opportunities and blessings. Do Open your eyes all around you and see what the world is offering you. If you don’t want to take that, what do you have to offer? What need have you identified that you can meet? And would you meet that need out of compulsion or with passion? I encourage you to challenge yourself to meet a need, and you can testify how fulfilling that will be. Love God first and love your neighbor as yourself , be sympathetic, be kind to the poor and needy, show love and mercy and see whether you will not experience joy and peace within yourself. This will be followed by breakthroughs and new opportunities of varied dimensions. Life indeed is how you live it and what you make of it. Be a Victor!
Do not deny your spouse the deserved happiness. Will you want to pay a wonderful tribute only in death? Why not seek each other’s utmost joy and happiness. Where has the love gone? It is right there within you, lying buried because of unmet expectations in the relationship. Will you find a place in your heart for forgiveness? Will you opt to take the first step towards reconciliation, it definitely lies within your power to do this assignment. Don’t let this opportunity slip and pass you by. With God’s help you can do this for He’ll give you the strength. God bless you as you obey Him.
A wife saw the hostility, animosity and disgust in the Mother-in-law’s gaze anytime their eyes met. It’s been five years into the marriage and no child. Both husband and wife had ceased to talk about it because the issue felt awful and painful, coupled with their culture where family and friends looked forward expectantly to see signs of pregnancy. To make matters worse a close friend of theirs made sure his wife-to-be got pregnant before marrying her, but the former had stuck to strict biblical principles stressing that God is Immutable; He has not yet changed His standards, nor will He ever change them.
Husband and wife felt distanced from each other. They however slept on the same bed and did everything together like there was nothing wrong. What they failed to realize was that the Emotional Attachment was gone. The ligament that held them together was torn and broken.
They had neglected just the One thing they needed to do – PRAY together!
The thought came to them at the same time, but in that heat of isolation and aloneness who should take the initial step? There they sat soliloquizing to themselves.
Ephesians 5:21 Submitting to one another out of reverence to God.
The only thing that prevents this submission is Pride! Luke 1:51 “He has shown strength with His arm, He hath scattered the proud in the imagination of their hearts”. James 4:6-7 “God gives more grace wherefore he says God resists the proud but gives grace to the humble. Submit yourselves therefore to God, Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.”
Dear Husband, you should take the initiative; for God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son that whosoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life John 3:16. God in His love and mercy took the initiative and he has given you that responsibility in Ephesians 5:25ff.
Psalm 127:3 “Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb is His reward. Couple, please Delight yourselves in the Lord and He shall give you the desires of your heart Psalm 37:4. It is He who blesses with children and even makes the barren woman a joyful mother of children Psalm 113:9ff. He will fill your quiver with sons who will contend with your enemies at the gate.
The beautiful thing about God is His TIMING! Alas! if only we understood His Timing, His Perfect Timing! See Genesis 18:14
ACCEPTING yourselves all over again is the road to victory. Accepting that God brought you together to nurture your love in Him is the battle half won. Accepting the fact that God has not left you alone and that He’s right there with you in your situation is victory over the devil. Jesus Christ’s assurance to you both is that “He’ll never leave you nor forsake you Hebrews 13:5. He’s always been there and will continue to be there for you ALL THE TIME!
Self-imprisoned by hurts which started barely two weeks into their marriage, both husband and wife felt entrapped, useless, lonely and isolated. Each spouse felt terribly let down by the other, and both concluded silently that they had married the wrong person! Questions were running through their minds independently…what went wrong, where did I go wrong? They scarcely talk to each other any more because the moment they tried to make conversation, this turned into accusations, counter-accusations and name calling. They visited their Pastor, went for Counseling but all to no avail. Why?
They needed to make that big decision…that joint decision to make their marriage work. This crucial and momentous decision depended on the two of them, husband and wife and none else. Unless and until both of them confess and admit that they want their marriage to succeed, only and only then would the initial hurdle be cleared…that being the most important and critical starting point…this gives the indication that the battle is midway through to victory! There is always help!
The Silent Witness is waiting with wide outstretched arms…just waiting for you to commit this marriage into His hands and leave it there. Husband and wife, is this too hard for you to do? Would you allow the devil to hinder you? Would you want to glorify God or satan? The choice is yours…This is the big Decision that you both need to take!
In Matthew 19 the Pharisees came testing Jesus about marriage. Let’s look at His answers from verses 4-6 “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning made them male and female and says ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two shall become one flesh’? “So then you are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”
This is His desire for marriage first and foremost and out of this will come forth godly offspring who will continue the godly heritage. For He came that they may have life and have it more abundantly.
Do not delay…time is not your own…do turn to the One Lord and Master of all Jesus Christ and your live(s) will never be the same again as you enjoy with the wife of your youth. Stay blessed!
The husband’s infidelity broke her heart and they decided to separate as friends. Months passed and instead of friendship developing, there arose resentment and bitterness and eventually deep hatred between them.
What happened to them was deep, faith and trust had been broken. Vows and promises made to each other before God and Witnesses thrown to the wind.
God has been the silent Witness in all this. This day He’s calling out to you – don’t waste your life, surrender it all to me. Jesus says “Come unto me all you who labour and are heavy laden and I will give you rest”. Commit your good self to Him and He’ll give you a new life, a new beginning full of hope for the future.